Musings on First Date Attire

My friend has a first date with a handsome fella tonight!!! Lucky for us we have innumerable experience in first dates (or maybe not so lucky?) Either way we’ve had some serious convos on what to wear on a first date, but for the longest time we never bothered to consult a male for his opinion. So while we think it doesn’t get sexier than a turtleneck and jeans (in winter) it turns out that many males don’t share our perspective. Over the course of many tragic first dates (anyone remember the broken foot fiasco) we’ve managed to compromise, because while it is important that the opposite sex finds you attractive – it is always more important that you think you are!!!

So here is the low-down from my male friend – a turtleneck conveys that the woman is “uptight” and can’t loosen up and enjoy herself. I see his point and think a compromise can definitely be achieved in the turtleneck category (3rd date).

Conversely, I will add that too-loose attire should be avoided for the obvious reasons -- like an interview, you want the person sitting across from you to be focused on you! So save the club attire for Vegas.

Now curiously a look that scored high with many of my male friends is the fitted button-down shirt and jeans (blazer optional). The guys like it because it gives an open-vibe while leaving enough to the imagination. Think Jennifer Aniston... (If button-down is not your thing a stylish blouse and/or jacket can achieve the same effect).

Like it or not, what we choose to wear speaks volumes to those around us (especially as a first/second impression). If you have a side of Rocker/Hippie/Preppie Chick save it for the conversation and not the outfit. The guy should have to work just a bit to figure out who you are…after all you don’t want to give up everything on the first date!!!